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HAPPINESS

Very interesting read about happiness, the pursuit of a thing that you believe will bring happiness to you, and finally, knowing when to grit toward it vs to quit pursuing it.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for my first grit vs quit decision. Working exhaustively for a company when I was 25. Managing 4 people, 2 who were twice my age. And watching those two get laid off, cold heartedly. It’s when I learned that an employer/employee relationship is rarely bi-directional.

It’s when I committed to making sure I did my best to make it mutual with my bosses and with the people who worked for me. And I also made it a point to be in tune to grit vs quit. The people around us can unknowingly make it hard for us to find happiness. They have norms. When to get married. How long to work somewhere. What career choices are acceptable. How we raise our kids to believe.

The most important thing in the pursuit of happiness is to ignore someone else’s norms in pursuit of your best choices (while embracing the social contract.) When you make your decisions your choices you have freedom, and therefore, happiness.

For all that this article states (https://www.forbes.com/…/youre-doing-happy-all…/…)

I first learned this lesson academically while reading Viktor Frankl.

If you haven’t read Man’s Search for Meaning, you should. And if you want happiness, ignore what the world does to you and focus on how you respond to it. Truly our last freedom is how we respond to our circumstances. “everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances”.

Life is great folks. Just felt inspired to react to this article that came through a Google Alert this am. 🙂Also, per FB memories and unknowingly, I made a Frankl reference a year ago to this day in a Post. Weird!

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2017/11/08/youre-doing-happy-all-wrong-a-harvard-psychologist-weighs-in/?fbclid=IwAR1orJVcClOC11TkjmYwXHHn3M5QqBIG7R-KmPDHvLuq2NM66hX0g6EPt7w&sh=a7c26532469f

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KISS

What a great night. Family taking care of Jaan and Anaiya. Afternoon to evening food and booze thanks to the HBD of an amazing friend who turned 30. < 😉

Also… 10 years to the moment, on the day where Priya KC Bhatt and I met.

#iamgrateful and #iamrhankful for Soniya Babu Sheth’s birthdays and all that her rockstar of a Man Shashank Sheth does to bring her special days to life. Also… my wife is hot. ‘Nuff said.

She’s also the kind of person with skills you don’t eff with. 🙂

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LIFE RECALIBRATING

There are days where you feel, meaningful. There are days where you feel, insignificant. I got some career advice/feedback from a friend today.

What I learned, thanks to the impressively humble David Homan is that achievement isn’t a zero sum game, an incredible reminder. Sometimes you can be happy and proud of who you are, while also finding yourself simply in awe of what amazing people can do and make possible.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the (albeit) short time spent together this evening. To say it was life changing would be accurate but cliche. To say it was life recalibrating is less cliche but just as accurate.

Time for bed. I have a lot of ground to make up tomorrow (and … forever.) 😉

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ALL NIGHT LONG: GTFO

How many of you have been stuck at an airport and complained about it? I was stuck a de Gaulle for 14 hours because of a snowstorm. I hugged my backpack, found my way to an open bench, pitied myself to sleep until restaurants opened for food like 8 hours later. But this woman. Wow. And the folks in the video? Wow.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the folks out there who really do make lemonade. Mahshid Mazooji runs the world IMHO. Thanks to Mark Andrew Reed for sharing this post. And a tribute to my Lionel Richie fans (heck, the man even Tweeted this with a shoutout to her moonwalk which is legit!) I think of Anu Kiran and Sapna Bhuta McCarthy and Anuja Silady when I hear this song. Without. Fail. Watch the video. See how it feels, yeah!

https://www.charlottestories.com/girl-makes-viral-dance-video-late-night-charlotte-douglas-workers-missing-flight/?fbclid=IwAR3s-M4NTaWi10LZqCxMExF6C-_l67TcZpxgHHgmqIKeCMtrAvIMrYPsmBk

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B2B SALES JOB OPP

You’ll get the opportunity to work with someone I consider myself lucky to have worked with, and someone I consider to be the model Sales Leader and Executive of the future. You think I’m BS’ing you? Meet him. You’ll feel the same way about Tim Thyne

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful of the time I spent working with him. I will miss it. And if you get to work with him, I’ll be a little jealous of you … like, we may not talk for a few days. And then when we do talk I’ll act like I don’t care, but really, I totally will. Sorry, I digress. DM me if you’re interested folks.

https://apply.workable.com/help-scout/?not_found=true

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BE GRATEFUL

Lots to brew, stew, and chew on these days. Find gratitude. What do I know? Who cares? But…trust some neuroscientists. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for evidence of what works.

https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/ancient-wisdom-reveals-4-rituals-that-will-make-you-happy-2

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HYPE

I try and avoid propaganda. But I love this. I’ve seen a wide range of posts over the past 24 hours. And I feel like even my rightest of right friends have acknowledged this point — we fought a war over this 70+ years ago. We became “America” on the heels of the sides we chose and the fights we fought and the enemy we squashed. (I’m happy to dig into all the nuance of WW2, mind you — I don’t view it romantically nor do I believe it played out romantically, but I certainly celebrate it as such). What I found most heartening today was the voices of people with whom I usually disagree on all things politically, stepping forward and saying … if The Daily Stormer is what invited you to Charlottesville, you had every right to be there … and we have every right to tell you to STFU, because you don’t represent anything American. Anything.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful that I have seen all this up close. Sitting across from me and next to me at lunch while in high school. The fact that I was invited into friends houses where Nazi paraphernalia was on display, flags hung on ceilings … taught me that this isn’t what most and many of these people mean to believe. It’s people in search of belief and meaning. This whole weekend took me back 25 years. Humbled me. We don’t take steps forward. If you look at our footprints, we salsa dance forward and backward. Progressive spirals. The net sum of the past 25 years is progress. But if we were to look at any individual point in time over the course of that 25 years, you’d think twice about betting on what you were going to see — what part of the salsa dance you were going to snapshot. In the end, I hugged my kids like hell this weekend. Like hell. And I know that for all our progress, the same statement applies to my son and daughter … don’t give anyone a chance to question your value, your contribution, or your fortitude. You again? Yes. And again and again and again. Sorry for the ramble folks. I’m twisted. I’ve always wondered what I’d do if I had the chance to go back to high school and start over. This weekend, I made it back to high school. Just not the way I had hoped. Love you all. And I hope every person on this planet finds meaning that doesn’t require zero summing someone else’s value in return. Life ain’t linear. But it can be progressive. Make your commitment to be incremental. In the best way. Be incremental.

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20 YEARS AGO

I was boarding the train I am (trying to, but a solid delay is not helping) this morning and I was wrapping up an internship that really set me on my way. Whatever way. This way. At least it is a way. One of my best friend’s ( Sonali K. Raval) older brothers ( Abhi Kamerkar) had squeezed me into an internship at Prudential. Very little based on my own competence but very really based on something that’s served me well ever since: finding some lucky way to be in the presence of smart people willing to take a chance on me. My bosses that summer treated me like gold because of that relationship. They let me dive into work. @cheryl Jones and @robert citro.

From them I got a killer rec that set me to come back to Pru and work for some even greater bosses willing to take bigger risks. Was talking about the honesty of work with some peers at work yesterday. The importance of good bosses. The impact of good or bad bosses. My career has wound me through and sometimes around. Sometimes back. I still actively seek good bosses. I still work at the opportunity to be one. Over the past 20 years I am more dominantly defined by that active pursuit. And that effort is borne of the chances folks have and continue to take on me. Feeling nostalgic. Actively seeking out some of that nostalgic energy on my way into work this am.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the delayed NJTransit train this am sparking space for some nostalgia and honest reflection. I also just want…some sleep. 🙂

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RAKSHA BANDHAN

Anyone who knows me knows this is my favorite holiday. My favorite day of celebration. Why? Because it’s about siblings. It’s about my sisters. It’s an acknowledgement of all they do for me. It’s about so much truth. Your siblings know you longest. In some ways, they know you best because they know you early (in my case, from Day 1), and they live alongside you. There are no choices when it comes to siblings. They just are. Undeniable. I mean this for the sisters with whom I share blood, the sisters with whom sharing blood is irrelevant, and I mean this for the sisters I’ve acquired who may not share blood with me, but they do with my wife and even more powerfully, my kids (it’s wild to think about Anaiya and Jaan literally sharing blood with their Masis.)

It’s a holiday that’s all about good. That transcends religions. Cultures. Who, in what part of the world, would object to celebrating the bond between a brother and a sister? Given the state of the world today — it’s not just the US, mind you, but nationalism and xenophobia are prevalent and seeing their rise everywhere (it’s more circular and recurrent in history than we’d like to admit), I thought this story was a nice one to share. Love to my sisters. You all make all the good in me worthwhile. All the mess, that’s my bad. 😉

It starts with you Anu Kiran and #iamgrateful and #iamthankful we’ve got some awesome sisters, don’t we?

https://indianexpress.com/article/lifestyle/art-and-culture/how-rabindranath-tagore-used-raksha-bandhan-as-means-to-prevent-1905-bengal-partition-4785042/?fbclid=IwAR37SFDISluZZDwu1K144b72KDWw_Cm92kXrN2QhL0Yb2qr2ImNNxQyE-GM

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YOU GET YOU, AND I GOT YOU TOO

That’s my sis. Seriously. Look at this pic? Anaiya intently concentrating on the TV. Tito Foi concentrating on Anaiya (specifically, being fed.) That’s how life is with my sis around. Just about everyone I know and think of finds a way to fight for the foreground. Not my sis. She fights to be the canvas upon which the background is drawn, so the foreground can pop. She’s done this for me my entire life. She’s why I have such few expectations of me around the fam (folks love me, this isn’t a pity party, it’s an acknowledgement one). Because she took all the stuff that was necessary and essential and required so I could run off and be an irresponsible and disassociated free spirit. My parents made me who I am. I am who I have become (the good things, the fact that bad stuff exists is my fault in human nature) because my sister sucked up all the weight of life and allowed me to go off and be me.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for my canvas. Thanks for letting me ungracefully hog the foreground. Also, I know this pic is symbolic of you and me. I’m always Anaiya, and you are always you, holding a spoon to my mouth. Happy soon to be bday!

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