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My $.02 | Happy, Proud, but Not Yet Satisfied – Just the Questions

Over the past few months, I’ve shared my approach to goal setting at work. A variation on a tactic I’ve used for almost 10 years to help people approach their holiday break productively; one that positions them to reflect a bit while also thinking deeply about what they want to pursue in the coming year.

It’s why, without fail, my teams, the people I work with, tend to have higher than normal turnover in January and February. People are encouraged to think deeply about what they want but hopefully, they also feel supported in pursuing it.

I’ll share more on Happy, Proud, but Not Yet Satisfied here soon; but in the short term, the biggest ask I continue to get is a list of the questions and/or slides people can use for reference.

Here’s a link to the slides I used to present these concepts this past holiday season.

And here are the questions.

Happy: Spend 5-6 minutes on the following questions. Write down thoughts, bullet points, ideas. The key is “up to three”.

  1. What are (up to) three things you remember from 2020 that still make you smile?
  2. What are (up to) three things you would do if you had infinite time and money wasn’t an issue?
  3. What are (up to) three things you can do seemingly forever without losing energy or passion?

Proud: Spend 5-6 minutes on the following questions. Write down thoughts, bullet points, ideas. The key is “up to three”.

  1. What are (up to) three new things you did in 2020 that you can add to your resume and LinkedIn Profile?
  2. What are (up to) three moments you recall from 2020 where you felt your confidence in your abilities grow?
  3. What are (up to) three things that happened in 2020 that would not have happened without your presence and participation?

Not Yet Satisfied: Spend 5-6 minutes on the following questions. Write down thoughts, bullet points, ideas. The key is “up to three”.

  1. What are (up to) three things you know you can do better in 2021?
  2. What are (up to) three new things you want to experiment with in 2021?
  3. What are (up to) the three most important things you want to arrive at this point, next year, having completed? These things will likely become your “Happy” and “Proud” items for next year.

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HAPPINESS

Very interesting read about happiness, the pursuit of a thing that you believe will bring happiness to you, and finally, knowing when to grit toward it vs to quit pursuing it.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for my first grit vs quit decision. Working exhaustively for a company when I was 25. Managing 4 people, 2 who were twice my age. And watching those two get laid off, cold heartedly. It’s when I learned that an employer/employee relationship is rarely bi-directional.

It’s when I committed to making sure I did my best to make it mutual with my bosses and with the people who worked for me. And I also made it a point to be in tune to grit vs quit. The people around us can unknowingly make it hard for us to find happiness. They have norms. When to get married. How long to work somewhere. What career choices are acceptable. How we raise our kids to believe.

The most important thing in the pursuit of happiness is to ignore someone else’s norms in pursuit of your best choices (while embracing the social contract.) When you make your decisions your choices you have freedom, and therefore, happiness.

For all that this article states (https://www.forbes.com/…/youre-doing-happy-all…/…)

I first learned this lesson academically while reading Viktor Frankl.

If you haven’t read Man’s Search for Meaning, you should. And if you want happiness, ignore what the world does to you and focus on how you respond to it. Truly our last freedom is how we respond to our circumstances. “everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances”.

Life is great folks. Just felt inspired to react to this article that came through a Google Alert this am. 🙂Also, per FB memories and unknowingly, I made a Frankl reference a year ago to this day in a Post. Weird!

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2017/11/08/youre-doing-happy-all-wrong-a-harvard-psychologist-weighs-in/?fbclid=IwAR1orJVcClOC11TkjmYwXHHn3M5QqBIG7R-KmPDHvLuq2NM66hX0g6EPt7w&sh=a7c26532469f

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