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PROPS

Sho’ ’nuff. This morning Anaiya and I were hanging window jellies. Between window jelly hanging moments, she collects the jellies on our parents white window sill. Which, pending any temperature variance, causes the jelly color to leech into the white paint on the windowsill. Meaning: stains. I’ve talked to Anaiya about leaving the jellies on the window instead of the sills. Today she saw the stains and launched into a series of thoughts and sentences that brought me to my knees. Every single time I think I am incapable of more love, she does something that unlocks an entirely new level of emotion. Like a secret code in a NAMCO video game. What did she say? The video was a recap. I asked her to restate all she said. But basically: 1) oh, that’s my mistake; 2) I will clean it; 3) (when I offered to help she said) and you don’t have to help because it’s my fault and I will do it; and 4) mistakes happen and it’s ok; 5) (and when water didn’t work) maybe we can get more towels and soap and scrub it. Look. You guys probably think I am ridiculous for how much this moved me. But I can’t think of a more powerful manifestations of all the conversations we have with her. Ownership. Accountability. Confidence. Effort. Forward looking.

So let’s do this. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for this…gift and treasure and present of a child. With moments that prop up my entire world, and moments for which, she sho’ ’nuff deserves props. Thanks, magic.

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WHY FIT IN?

When you were born to stand out? All I needed to know I learned in kindergarten. I remember that book. It came out when I was in middle school and we have an awesome substitute teacher who actually motivated me to read more. He had me curious about Satanic Verses when nobody else in the world would talk to me about it. I remember this book and him talking about it…we had to be 25 years apart at the time. To me, as an 11 or 12 year old? It was a joke! But to him, it was eye opening and true. When I watch videos like this, and as I get older, life gets simpler. A little clearer. A lot more … well, many other things. But in things like this it does get simpler.

So let’s do this. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful to Rita G Patel for sharing this and reminding me to keep the fun in my daughter’s homework. She loves it right now. And that’s because the lines don’t matter. I hope she never unlearns that.

https://www.upliftedlife.com/how-society-kills-our-creativity-in-a-breathtaking-award-winning-short-film/?fbclid=IwAR0SDI8qy9q-6sJYLl7Svl6j_q_tCs2rAsiX7M4_DEFxa_X8SGcQ_DteisM

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UNDERRATED

This > http://www.imdb.com/title/tt4624424/ . It’s been a while since I’ve appreciated the humor in a movie to this extent. It’s clever. It’s unexpected. Some of it is sheer genius (a fight scene with a silent twist, some of the banter). I loved it. I’m about to say that this is the funniest animated film (kid friendly animated film, because otherwise, South Park still wins period) I’ve seen. I attribute the low rating to a failure to balance what an adult might appreciate with what a kid can appreciate at the same time (Disney, Pixar, they always nail layers that appease everyone simultaneously). I’m not sure if my kids would have loved this one. But … I say go for it. So let’s do this and dole out some appreciation for the WB’s foil to Disney’s gold standard.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for a flick that kept me distracted and entertained even in 5-10 minute spurts (before going to bed, for example). And a pic that stirred some emotions and forced me to text someone who I’m now forcing to watch it this weekend (thanks Kelli O’Donnell)!

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4624424/?fbclid=IwAR01SZr_oNP3tbWETjvTIWQ4Utm2RoQO9tttMd74kFZ1_T4GqDeBrF6v0hY

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YO, YOU NEED A HUG, BRO?

Umm. Yeah. I do. Because I am a newborn, who entered this crazy world with a drug addiction. This program sounds wonderful. So let’s go ahead and do this: hug it out. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the people with the compassion and intelligence and creativity to come up with programs like this, and for Arti Upadhyay-Patel who shared this so I could see it. Also, let’s keep it real: these hugs heal more than the babies being hugged. Happy Friday, people. Happy. Friday.

https://educateinspirechange.org/health/can-volunteer-cuddle-drug-addicted-babies-order-help-heal/?fbclid=IwAR3O6Qvp13WyR986FlcatryIVrZCbRzOddi2LRFm1G_HVA0BWlC6BEUoPnY

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HEAVY DAY, LIGHTENED MOODS

Let’s just go ahead and do this without any buildup. For all of today’s heavy, #iamgrateful and #iamthankful I’ve got my compass set in this direction. As long as I do that, I feel like my small, intimate, critically important “we” will find a way forward.

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HOLLY

What Todd Heap is going through, I can’t fathom. I read his story and got bleary eyed. I simply can’t fathom it. This story, was a nice jolt of feel good good gesturing. The Steelers and the Ravens are, bitter rivals. To hear fans talk about the other team, and the other fans, would make you question and wonder whether NFL Football fandom is healthy. But then you read this article.

And you see how they put aside sporting rivalries when it matters, and how all that competitive spirit is built on a foundation of mutual respect — there’s something nice and redemptive about it. With our increased polarization, and with the echo chambers we can easily find ourselves in, I wonder if we’re getting a little bit worse at respectful rivalries, and respectful discourse. So let’s go ahead and do this for Holly and #HugsforHollyDay.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the simple, pure, classy example set by both Tomlin and Bisciotti. Just good people looking out for good people.

https://www.espn.in/nfl/story/_/id/19301248/the-pittsburgh-steelers-rallying-support-former-baltimore-ravens-te-todd-heap-death-young-daughter

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1 PERCENT

Was driving home from dinner today and caught Neil deGrasse Tyson on NPR. The dude is something special. An astrophysicist with mass appeal. He’s the embodiment of what the world needs. An expert in a field, who doesn’t fault anti-intellectualism or anti-science, but instead, looks for root causes for the what’s manifested. Hearing him talk about Pruitt’s commentary on greenhouse gases and the human effect — for most of my friends, this would devlove into a critique of particular political affiliations or economic interests. NdGT?

Pushed the conversation to K-12 education. There’s something bigger at play. There’s something more fundamental to consider. And that’s the thing — it’s about what’s fundamental. Stepping back from a specific topic like GhG … whether you agree with his premise or his root cause analysis or not, hopefully we can universally agree with his broader “cosmic perspective”. Summarized for me as such: psychologically, our ego tells us and convinces us that we are different from everyone else, and not simply different, but in ways that matter to us, often better. But science proves to us that we are made up of Carbon, Nitrogen, Hydrogen — matter, not dissimilar from other people, an oak tree, or the universe itself…hell, our DNA is 99% the same as a chimp. Psychology teaches us to think we’re different. Science humbles us to prove we’re so much the same.

Let’s do this. #Iamgrateful and #Iamthankful for the scientific and cosmic worldview. Starting from a place where we acknowledge our sameness, is the best way to contextualize, understand, and ideally, reduce the impact of our differences.

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POPPA BEAR MEET MOMMA BEAR

Jillian Powers I do have a young girl and heck yeah does she need role models. Let’s be clear, she has many. But let’s also be clear, she will never have enough. As a dad I do my best and have gotten pretty good at adapting stories on the fly, to gender correct so Anaiya is the character and isn’t just reading about a character. But Emily Steel, for all her claiming, is my story. I could care less about BO’R. I care more about the conviction of doing your job, paying your dues, and not being scared off by threats or prestige or status. So yeah. Let’s do this. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful that we have added another chapter to that awesome book on Rebel Girls (thanks Ekata Doshi.)

https://www.marieclaire.com/culture/a26757/emily-steel-bill-oreilly/?fbclid=IwAR0qdp23qbXc5I9d3EBQf-8fJ_Od9ggxe_ALV7dxth9BJzAxpojtkPp88Aw

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MOMMA LOVE

This picture hides 1,000 words. And tears. Looking at it doesn’t do it an ounce of justice. After a great dinner for Jaan’s 11 month birthday (one he cried and slept through, kind of like what I do more and more with each passing year), the grandparents, my sis, and Priya and I gathered at home for chai before getting to bed. At some point the Mom’s got to talking about each other and there was not a dry eye in the room. So much love, appreciation and respect for each other. So much gratitude for how much love the other has for their acquired children. How natural our family ties are. So let’s do this. Of all the area I find myself to be blessed, it’s fair to say the way our parents get along…actually our families…is amazing.

And #iamthankful and #iamgrateful for the air cover I was born with and the air cover I’ve newly acquired. Ain’t no kinda aashirvaad like that powered by your Momma. We got it 2x. But even better, is how much they’ve got it for each other.

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TYMMPB… | You Actually Just Made us all Laugh

This video is incredible. Because you were such a chill baby for so long, but as soon as we got to food, your true personality came out. And all that chill you gave us the first 6+ months we know, was to keep us off-guard and let us know, we were in for a surprise.

FWIW, your Naniji and your Dadiji totally called it.

There’s no advice here. You knew what you wanted. Dadiji to feed you. And your Dadaji took it in stride because, frankly, if your sister had her choice of person to feed her we all know she’d choose your Dadaji. (True story.)

This is the kind of video we’re going to love for years; and it’s the kind of video I’m going to share with all your teachers (and then significant others) — because this is the kind of stuff that’s just you.

It’s just you.

And we love all of it.

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