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It’s been crazy. Days. Weeks. Months. Maybe years? It’s been crazy.

I’ve been wanting to write something all day as I’ve watched the stream of photos and videos pop up as reminders on my phone and right here on Facebook.

Facebook was throwing haymakers, Daddy.

All because you turned 80 today.

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Not your body. But you. Your legacy. Your memory. Your impact. Your values. Your jokes. You. All the things that are you except for the thing that was you, turned 80 today.

I think that’s what I realized today and that’s what I talked to the kids about this morning. There is no would have. There just is. Is the fact that you turned 80 today.

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When I woke Jaanu up and his eyes went from tired, to glinted, to tear coated just enough to bulge but not enough to burst and stream down his cheek. All because it was your birthday?

Also, I’ll tell you, for a four year old, his eyes tested hydrogen bonding better than most and many have.

When Anaiya watched the video of her singing you Happy Birthday — and holy hell, Daddy, am I happy we have that video, I think for Mumma, it may be more important than oxygen some days — when watching her watch that video of you and watching her face turn from laughing and smiling at herself to deeply missing you on your birthday.

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When those things happened, I realized that you turned 80 today. To hell with biology. To hell with philosophy. To hell with cosmic theories of existence. To hell with it all.

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In your grandson’s eyes. In your granddaughter’s heart. You are here. Present. Deeply present. And you turned 80 today, Daddy. Can’t wait to be with you all the same next year, when you turn 81.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for their memories of your memory.

It’s beautiful.

Happy 80th.

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TYMMPB… | You’re the Best in the History


I don’t remember the first time you said it. I do remember hearing it for the first time; and going absolutely bonkers.

We were doing yoga in the morning during the early days of COVID-19 and as we sat and talked about what the day held, what was going to make us happy, what was going to get in the way of our happy, what was going to be fun, and what was going to get in the way of our fun; in the midst of that logical juxtaposition of what you want, what you control, what gets in the way, and of that, what you control, somehow we stumbled upon “history”.

Your sister spoke first. And as her usual, eloquent and loquacious self, found a way into a spotlight where there wasn’t one, and then proceeded to find a way to own it.

What were you going to do? You were still a couple months away from knocking on 4’s door and here she was, the love of your life, your role model, choosing to go first in expressing her gratefulness in the morning leaving you to follow?

Was that even fair?

Do they have Mike Birbiglia open for someone who’s trying standup for the first time? You know?

She wasn’t better by design; only by years. At this stage in your life she’s got 50% more experiences than you do. It’s not reasonable to have you follow.

You let her roll. But your lips started turning up at the corners.

And when she finished, you dropped your greatest line and now the way I plan to talk going forward in celebration of amazing things always:

“The best in the whole history.”


It’s so perfect.

It encapsulates you.

It’s succinct. Never take 12 words to say what you can say in 6.

It’s powerful. Never leave doubt on how you’re feeling at the moment.

It’s uniquely generous. Never just give, give in a way people haven’t experienced before.

It’s memorable. Never be forgettable, by choosing to be, say, and do things in unforgettable ways.

It’s sincere. Never fake anything. Ever.

It’s on your sleeve. Never wear anything in your heart or mind, that you wouldn’t wear on your sleeve too.

I love you. You are my absolute and undeniable homie.

I’ve never felt so comfortable expressing my love to someone. Even your sister, at some point, is like “Buhboo, you can’t love me this much!” But you? Naw’man. You? You escalate. When I tell you that you’re the best kid in the world.

Well; you tell me I’m the best buhboo in the history.

A few hours ago you were three; now, at this moment, you’re four. Even you’re reading changed from yesterday to today!

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You will never be three to you again. But I want you to know, to me, you’ll always be …

…a little bit of you at one…

…a little bit of you at two…

…a little bit of you at three…

…a little bit of you at four … and I’m so excited to learn about what that means.

The world. We included. Did a lot to you this year. You switched schools a few times. You moved from your Nana and Naniji’s comfortable daily love to a new home without them. You faced COVID-19. You got scratches. And bruises. On your face, your arms, and dare I say and admit, your heart.

You had people debating you when you weren’t there to be.

But every single day I look at you and I’ll say, man, given what the world and we included have thrown at you, you’re so…damn…good.

We owe you more and we owe you better.

People rise and fall to the expectations you set for them, son.

You’ve called each of us the best in the history. It’s our job to rise to that level and I’ll tell you, we’re getting after it.

As for you? Today You Make Me Proud Because of how real you are; and how wonderful you can make the world feel. You have a gravitational pull that isn’t based on mass (that’s me).

As you step into 4 and build on what’s before, I am so proud of who you are fighting to become every day; and I’m more excited about the kid I’m going to be talking about going into 5.

I love you, homie. You truly are incomparable; you are the greatest son in the history.


PS: This year I made you gummy animals for your birthday treat; the ones filled with NERDS are INCREDIBLE! We even made you a dragon one as a primer for How to Train your Dragon: The Hidden World!

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But going back to that whole “best in the history” thing we were talking about; you see, 3 days ago you woke up one morning, and when we were getting ready for breakfast you did this dance asking me for gummy bears.

Yeah. Gummy bears.

What’s funny is 2 days earlier I had decided I was going to make you Gummy Bears, ordered all the stuff, and it was on the way.

So I am wicked happy you’re going to have Gummy Bears on your birthday, homie.

And even moreso, that you proclaimed your craving for them while wearing a shirt that would have made JJ happy in pursuit of the Goodest of Times.

But, I’ll tell you, I’ll be as busy as a one-legged cat in a sandbox if one of the greatest moments in my history as a Buhboo (aka father), isn’t the fact that I tapped into your Gummy Bear longing days before you did …

…and then delivered on it.

We got 2020, homie. We got it; because we got each other.

I love you. And all you’re becoming. And all you’ve been.


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We weren’t with you today, but, you know we are with you always. Kids tell the truth. Sometimes it sucks. Sometimes it’s amazing. Like this love here. But it’s the truth. So…you can’t ever deny this video and this love.

For that #iamgrateful and #iamthankful HBD

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Man. What a great video to see this morning. Incredible song. The choreography looks like a blast. And the families are putting smiles on my face.

All of ’em. I’m also loving Phil Wright as the hype man jumping into each sequence with a little positive reinforcement.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for video shares like this. Thanks Ami Shah for the share. This goes out to lots of people but today, hopefully this helps my sis start her birthday off right. Happy Birthday Anu Kiran!


You know we’ll have Jaanu and Anaiya doing this in a few years (heck, maybe sooner!)

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HBD Mumma.

In a new world of firsts, you handled today with strength, grace and fleeting moments of vulnerability…and we love you.Anaiya as always, said it best.

While I spend thousands of characters trying to get it right, followed by edits, deletes, pauses and revisits. She just loves you and says. It’s why she’s magic. In a sentence and a wish she wraps you in love.

“I wish that my Dadi could never cry.”

I assure you, Mumma, all of us will keep wrapping you in love. Like you’ve done for us for lifetimes.

I also can’t wait for Anaiya to do all the talking for me soon (we’re close.)HBD Mumma.

Finally…it’s amazing what happens to a song like “You’ll never find…” when you’re where we are. It goes from intoxicating to haunting. It’s still wonderful Mr Rawls. But it hurts at levels it used to just hum at.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for clarity in birthday wishes. Udabes.

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You turned 4 today. You have been magic from before day 1. The fact that you will never be 3 again crushes me and brings me to my knees. But we also know that with every day you grow older, you come one step closer to changing the whole darned world. You started with all of us.

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On your birthday this year, you’re expanding your impact by giving to kids and strangers you’ve never met before (thank you Daymaker!)

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for you every darned day. Even when we’re strict. Know that hurts us more than it hurts you. Love you, bbcc. Magic. Pumpkin. Sona baccha. Princess. Neeya.

You fill up every ounce of space the world gives you with love, life, laughter, and sometimes, some powerful gas. But we’re good. 😉


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This first picture says it all.

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What you are doing for Jaanu in this pic is what you do for all around you. Smile. Laugh. Support. Lift up. And perhaps most inconspicuously…fall to the background.

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You’ve raised an amazing daughter who u am lucky enough to call a wife. You have taught her to expect the best and that she deserves to be treated like royalty. All by example. We love you, Dad. Happy 70th. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the bar you have set.

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This…is literally all that matters in the world. We look at all the insanity out there and we just try our darnedest to make sense of it. And we can’t. And the problem is…it’s all layers of artifice. Opinions stacked upon interpretations stacked upon assumptions stacked upon baggage.

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Which is why life gets hard.

You know when life gets easy?

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When you watch this video. And you see Anaiya express just precisely how she feels about one of the most important people in her life. One of the two people who her brother was named after. It’s just pure love.

And it brings out the best in my family and it turns my Dad, one of the purest and sincerest people, the person I know whose heart is most always on his sleeve, the person we know who is unfamiliar, downright allergic to formality and artifice…it brings out the best in him and the happiest in him. We were happy to be there for it. Jaan made it pretty far. 🙂 But on the eve of Dad’s Birthday, Anaiya hung out quite late and is about to make her way to bed.Guess who she is sleeping with?Dadaji and Dadaji.Game, set, match. On love and life.#iamgrateful and #iathankful for all of it.

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Enough said. I love you. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful to have a protector like you in front of me at all times Anu Kiran And I know Priya KC Bhatt feels the same way. 😉

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Old school hip hop for me is late 80s early 90s. Fab 5 Freddy. Yo! MTV Raps. (Kudos if you nailed the punctuation.) EPMD dropped a great song with a guest verse by LL that was one of the best flows of all time. Furreal. It was also about being on a Rampage. One of the best video games of all time.

Today? Jaanu had a birthday party delayed but the cake was too late to be deferred. It, like him at 1, was on a Rampage. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the ripper, the master, the overlordian…thank you Blue Sheep Bake Shop

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