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FINDING HOPE AND FRIENDSHIP IN COMMENTS or HATE HAS NEVER CHANGED A MIND

I stepped away from Facebook for a while; two years ago I took my friends on FB down from I think a couple thousand (+) to 7. Just family. I almost went deleted it all together but the photos…ahhh, the photos and memories were the best part of it.

When I started coming back online, I promised myself I’d make Facebook the place I wanted it to be. I was going to do more to get back to my #iamgrateful and #iamthankful posts. I got a lot of negativity about these posts, but I also realized through DMs and messages how many people kind of looked forward to them. So I wanted to make this a place that brought me happiness and positive energy (I needed that in spades, especially last year, as I think many of us did).

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There are a lot of ways I’ve used FB to get there; but one of the most powerful has been jumping into the comment section of really heated posts and trying to see if I could find common ground with people. And it’s been amazing.

Today was that example; where I saw a woman comment on Joe BIden’s inauguration, and go down a path of slamming him for wanting to defund police.

The discussion we had in the comments was super positive. Even though around us, people were slamming her (and even laughing at me) for how we shared our perspectives.

What was awesome though, was where we ended. Giving each other just a little sprinkle of positivity and hope. That we can find common ground, even the smallest slivers.

When you put enough of those slivers together, you get steps, then stairs, and then, maybe, one day, bridges.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for some of the people I’ve met. Who have helped me get past the beliefs they have and into the reasons why. I am hopeful. And of all I know, I know one thing for sure: hate has never changed a mind.

On the day between MLK Day and Inauguration Day, I found hope in what many believe to be the most disappointing part of our virtual world; the comment section.

I found hope, and sometimes even, I’ve found friendship there.

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#TMLFYI … | Artistic Fandom

We all need fans.

There’s something powerful about knowing that, in advance of an achievement or an accomplishment, or in advance of something you release to the world, there’s a receptive audience.

For your ideas.

For your visions.

For your dreams.

When you think of the greatest achievements the world has known, you often think of two universes circling the achiever. The ideator.

You think of those who came so close to genius, and instead of creating space for it, cast it aside. Walked past it, or even more powerfully, stopped, stared, and let it walk on by instead.

“I’m not even going to do the work of dismissing you; you can do that yourself.”

That’s one universe.

The other universe though, is the fan.

People rise and fall to the expectations we set for them. That message is meant for the people setting expectations.

It’s most important though, for the people upon whom those expectations are set.

Which is why in those stories of genius it’s amazing to think of the power of being a fan.

One fan can offset hundreds, even thousands of detractors. One fan can negate all of the doubt, and set a bar so extraordinarily high, the doubters fade from the rear view mirror and are soon so far gone, it’s ridiculous to think they even existed.

Today, on your birthday, my magic, you did it again. You reminded me why I’m your biggest fan. You reminded me why from the moment you were born, everyone had a name for you, but I had a feeling.

“Magic.”

I watched you set up art stations in our garage for all your friends. I watched you circle the room to make sure everyone was taken care of. I watched you pick individual paint-by-numbers for each person based on what they like and what they’d like to paint.

I watched you.

I also watched you heave after all was said and done. As your friends clustered off together. I watched you circle our house alone. And then, when I tapped you on the shoulder I watched you shake your head free of some of that self doubt and questioning, and come back to earth, and make sure nobody else played alone, and make sure everyone had their goodie bag.

You make friends everywhere you go. You design, build, construct, friendships. When you make friends, you truly make them.

I watched you love and care at age 7 like many at my age can’t even fathom.

It’s when I realized that I need to be an even more vocal and bigger fan of you and the love you’re capable of bringing into this world. And so I shall.

I’ll forget sometimes. But I’ll come back to this post. I’ll look at these pictures. And I’ll remember.

That for you and your ability to love so creatively — so artistically — I’m downright fanatical.

As you turn 7, today my love for you is like what the greatest connoisseurs of art feel for their favorite artists. And then some.

I love you my magic. Keep loving the world as exceptionally as you do. I’ll remember my place and I assure you, like all great things, the world will take not and celebrate it more and more.

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CAN I INSPIRE YOU TO BUY THIS BOOK

It launched, today. 100% of proceeds are donated to charity.

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Have you donated your hair?

Know someone who has?

Do you know someone fighting cancer? Love someone who has?

Do you have a kid in your life who you want to develop empathy and compassion?

Do you know a kid who is already blowing your mind with how they think and what they process?

We wrote this book for you. I assure you, the book will move you. Inspire conversations with those kids in your life. And it will catalyze some powerful next step, some action. Today’s the Day brings together the true stories of three amazing young ladies into one powerful narrative about hair donation.

The story is anchored in a beautiful friendship that will bring you to tears; along the way, your kids will be compelled to talk to you about everything from bullying and absenteeism to hair donation and yes, maybe even pediatric cancer.

100% of our proceeds are donated to relevant causes based on how kids vote on our website.#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for all of your support.

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A BOOK ABOUT HAIR DONATION

Today’s the Day. Friday, 6/1 is the day.

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We at Dream Village, Where Kids Build Better Tomorrows have written (I think) our best book yet. It brings together the true stories of three amazing young ladies into one powerful narrative about hair donation. The story is anchored in a beautiful friendship that will bring you to tears; along the way, your kids will be compelled to talk to you about everything from bullying and absenteeism to hair donation and yes, maybe even pediatric cancer.

100% of our proceeds are donated to relevant causes based on how kids vote on our website. I wrote the book to be published on June 1st because my Nani would have been 90; and we lost her to cancer. The young lady featured in this book, Siona, would have been 14 this week (the same day as our son). We lost her just the same.

Help us spread the word. Celebrate the young ladies in this book. Generate awareness and funds for the causes featured in this book. Let’s make this an Amazon bestseller in tribute. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for all of your support. Le’go.

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LOVE YOU, Disha Sharma Modi

A friend posted this. Sheโ€™s…wonderful. I think we are coming up on 15 years?

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for every moment. Her post:Certainly, in the most difficult moments of life you realize that there are true friends or people who really appreciate you. ๐Ÿ˜Š Unfortunately, most friendships will leave you but they will still send you a “like”, but they don’t really take time to read your status if they see it’s long. More than half will stop reading here, or have already moved to the next entry in your feed.๐Ÿ˜”

I decided to publish this message in support of a very special person for me who had someone very special to them who fought to the end with firmness and energy. Who taught them to live every day as if it were the most beautiful day? Who has filled the world with a beautiful smile and sweet attitude.๐Ÿ˜‡

Cancer is very invasive and destructive to our body, even after the end of treatment, the body is still struggling with itself trying to reconstruct all the damage caused by radiation. ๐Ÿ˜ทIt’s a very long process. Please, in honor of a family member or a friend who died, or is still fighting cancer, or even had cancer, but is cured; copy and paste this.๐Ÿค—

Everyone says, “if you need anything, don’t hesitate to call me, I’ll be there to help you.” So, I’m gonna make a bet that most of those who saw this post (maybe even read all the way to the end) would say that, but not really mean it.๐Ÿค”

You just have to copy (not share) and paste. I would like to know with whom I can count to take a minute of your day and really read my posts ๐Ÿ˜ and then write “done” in the comments. Thank you.๐Ÿ˜˜

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RIP

Fulton Green. I’ve got no words for what’s running through my mind as I heard about your passing away. You were one of the first photos and friends I made at Fuqua. You were one of the last photos I took and hugs I gave as I left the building on graduation day. In-between, you cracked me up. You taught me about Waffle House and all the vernacular required to get those hashbrowns right. And you were the only person to join me at the Waffle House Challenge 3x. Bro. THAT’s a bond for life. We barely knew each other. But you loved Waffle House. And we ended up having an amazing time and laying the foundation for a casual, remote friendship. You were a good dude. Never more clearly evidenced than when a friend of mine came to visit and interview at Fuqua when you and I were in the midst of our first year, and stumbled across you. You invested quite a bit of unnecessary but natural time in showing him around. Jeff Angtuaco ended up joining us the following year and I believe you two kept in touch much better than you and I did after 2010. Hugs to your family.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful to have known you. I can’t think of Fuqua without thinking of you. I won’t ever eat a hashbrown without thinking of you. One thing I try to do is learn something and carry something forward from family and friends who pass away. Changing something fundamental about my day-to-day activities as a person in tribute. I know exactly what I’ll be carrying forward from you, homie. #WarEagle

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#RESIST

Look. I know for many people right now this means one thing. For me? It means this photo. This past weekend Anaiya, for the first time, blocked a door to stop someone from leaving. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful it happened for all the right reasons for two very right people.

Eeshan Bhatt and Shannon Bethany …. if anything is going to get in the way, I love when its love…. look at his face and then look at hers …. few things in the world will ever make me happier than this moment.

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ECHO

Sometimes, other people just say it better. #iamgrateful and #iamthabkful for all those (frequent and often) times they do. Great times with the Mandelbaum’s today. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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SHIELDS

Today I got a few moments with a guardian. We all have them. Parents. Spouses. Siblings. Friends. Kids (yeah, Anaiya protects Priya KC Bhatt like whoa!) I am adding one to the list. Co-workers. Meet DelShaun Marie. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for her. She made me better at my job.

She made me a better husband (her and Priya collaborated on my life schedule.) She made me a better friend. And she shielded me from a buncha nonsense so I could focus on what mattered. Vibranium ain’t got sh*t on Homie. All because we worked so well as a team. Got some time with her today and I smiled a lot.

Because that’s what she brings to the table. Lucky me. Thanks homie!

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STARS ALIGNING

I haven’t worn my contact lens in 3 months. Not my knee braces as I had no idea where they were. I tossed my old DWade Converse after my last game of basketball in September. Some old college friends are getting together to play tonight and I found my way into a pickup game from 9-11. In Metuchen. A mile from where we live now. Lots just lined up so I could make it even onto the court. The rest? It’s gravy. At my age and physical condition it might be best for me to stay in the car. ๐Ÿ™‚ But let’s do his and let’s get out on that court and let’s stay…between the three point lines. #iangrateful and #iamthankful for some run….

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