“You can fail as many times as you like, as long as you don’t feel that reflects on your self worth.”
This research is at least five years old. The first time I searched for it we had just raised $32.5mm but our culture was fracturing. There were many reasons but one key point was not inculcating the spirit of “missing vs failing” in our company.
Conversely, perfectionism isn’t what drives success. It’s disappointing when people hide their mistakes, misses, missteps behind a shroud of “perfectionism”. Using “perfectionism” as a caveat and a crutch gets in the way of understanding your real motivations for doing something. It also implies that others don’t share your standards. We’re all perfectionists in some way.
And yet, nobody’s perfect.
Let’s move past using perfectionism to excuse or mask areas for personal development.
“There’s a pervasive feeling that despite some of the legitimate wonders of modern society, our potential has been capped. And yet we strive, because we know nothing else. For millennials, burnout is foundational: the best way to describe who we’ve been raised to be, how we interact with and think about the world, and our everyday experience thereof. And it isn’t an isolated experience. It’s our base temperature.”
Helping guide a company of 400 and counting through the pandemic has been one of the most challenging and rewarding professional experiences of my life. When a super majority of the team I work with falls squarely millennial, I have to take articles and analyses like this to heart.
Josh Cohen has written some great pieces on the subject of burnout; I’m less enamored with his recent book and compilation than I was with his original articles, the ones he uses to lay the foundation for Not Working (his book).The burnout referenced above, isn’t just millennials though. As generations have blurred, as work – life boundaries have blurred, as so many traditional boundaries have blurred, so too have the afflictions we associate to groups who once existed within boundaries outside of our own.
As I think about the awesome team members I work with at Boldr every day, I’m thinking more and more about their mental health.
One thing I’ve promised to do in the spirit of moving forward, honoring legacies, and simply, trying to do better — was to honor Daddy’s legacy on this Father’s Day.
I’m doing that with two posts:
1) My $.02 | Preparing for the Inevitable – I’ve been asked a few times over to share anything I’ve learned, working through my family’s estate, over the past few months. I did my best here. I welcome feedback on it. And I hope it’s helpful.
I’m also always happy to discuss it if/when you find yourself going through it. I’m not an expert, just a guy with some experiences to share:
2) “WAIT, WHAT?” or HOW I GRIEVE – I’ve been asked a few times over to consolidate all the posts I’ve written about Daddy over the past few months; I’ve done that here in one blog post, that gives some additional context around the origin of the posts as well as links to all 16 I’ve written about my journey/experience.
#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for all the love, support, and strength our family’s been given. All we can do is say thank you and pay it forward. Here’s what probably amounts to some spare change, being paid forward.