“You can fail as many times as you like, as long as you don’t feel that reflects on your self worth.”

This research is at least five years old. The first time I searched for it we had just raised $32.5mm but our culture was fracturing. There were many reasons but one key point was not inculcating the spirit of “missing vs failing” in our company.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for this kind of work. It’s more important now than ever.

As people emerge from a challenging 2020 and as we rally ourselves, our families, our teams and companies forward into 2021:Embrace the difference between missing and failing.


Conversely, perfectionism isn’t what drives success. It’s disappointing when people hide their mistakes, misses, missteps behind a shroud of “perfectionism”. Using “perfectionism” as a caveat and a crutch gets in the way of understanding your real motivations for doing something. It also implies that others don’t share your standards. We’re all perfectionists in some way.

And yet, nobody’s perfect.

Let’s move past using perfectionism to excuse or mask areas for personal development.


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Rita G Patel dude, thank you for sharing this. Everyone else, read this. I’ve actually found myself getting pulled into to FB trolling clap backs the past two days. I wish I’d read this earlier. Sarah Silverman is hysterical, talented as all hell, bold (and I also think she’s stunning.)

But hearing stories like this…read the story and read how quickly the twitter convo turned from a troll calling her a “c*nt” to her pulling out of him that he’d been molested as a child, to … oh wow just read. #iamgrateful and #iamthankful for this share. #faithpatches


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A friend posed the below (a former boss/manager actually, thank you Joan Ochi). The message is powerful and precisely the humility and context we need these days. It reminds me of one of my favorite passages from The Art of Happiness. I feel like sometimes I can be too proud of what I have accomplished and not honest or forthright enough about all the people and institutions that made it possible.

#iamgrateful and #iamthankful for the reminders. This is a great way to enter the weekend and a message I want to reinforce with our kids over and over again.

From Joan:

One of my favorite passages, from a speech by Dr. Martin Luther King. In the wake of the horribly short-sighted decision made by our president yesterday, this seems especially relevant.”

It really boils down to this: that all life is interrelated. We are all caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied into a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. We are made to live together because of the interrelated structure of reality.

Did you ever stop to think that you can’t leave for your job in the morning without being dependent on most of the world? You get up in the morning and go to the bathroom and reach over for the sponge, and that’s handed to you by a Pacific islander.

You reach for a bar of soap, and that’s given to you at the hands of a Frenchman. And then you go into the kitchen to drink your coffee for the morning, and that’s poured into your cup by a South American. And maybe you want tea: that’s poured into your cup by a Chinese.

Or maybe you’re desirous of having cocoa for breakfast, and that’s poured into your cup by a West African. And then you reach over for your toast, and that’s given to you at the hands of an English-speaking farmer, not to mention the baker.

And before you finish eating breakfast in the morning, you’ve depended on more than half of the world. This is the way our universe is structured, this is its interrelated quality. We aren’t going to have peace on earth until we recognize this basic fact of the interrelated structure of all reality.”

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